In this crazy busy world, every couple needs some time away from the kids, pets, mortgage, and boss to get reacquainted and focus on their relationship. We may see our spouse every day and spend time with them amongst the rigors of daily life, but that just isn’t enough. If you are like us, the time and cash aren’t available to pack up and take a romantic vacation to a far off island paradise. So what’s a cash-strapped married couple supposed to do? I’m sure you’ve read about the “staycation” trend; it entails staying close to or at home and taking time off from your usual routine. A romantic staycation is similar to that, but it’s just for the two of you sans the family. You’ll need to strictly focus on each other, so take a few days off work, send the kids to your mothers, and ask a friend to watch the pets. It’s time to get flirty and have some fun. Here are a few ideas to get you started. Use these or let them inspire you to come with some of your own:
Picnic at the Park
You may go to the park frequently if you have young children, but this trip is for adults only. You’ll need a blanket for two, a bottle of wine or sparkling cider, a cheese sampler, and sliced fruit. Take along a book of romantic poetry by Shelley, Keats, or Browning (if you don’t have one pick up one at the local library). Take turns reading to one another or talking about something that interests you. To keep it romantic, don’t talk about the children, work, or your mother-in-law.
Bike Ride in the Country
If you don’t have bikes of your own, you might think about renting some at the local bike shop. Find a meandering country road with little traffic, or if there is a state park nearby, then head out on a slow-paced ride enjoying the scenery and the wildlife. Take breaks along the way to laugh or to catch your breath. Just being out experiencing nature together can be exhilarating and get the blood flowing to the heart.
Dance the Night Away
It’s terrific if you are a dance pro, but if you’re like me you have two left feet and your partner only has one. It doesn’t matter if you can’t do the two-step or the tango; it’s about getting out there and spending time focusing on one another. Choose a music genre you both love if possible, or try something new.
This idea is a bit predictable but it’s a classic way to spend time focusing on your spouse. Add a little spice to it by trying a new restaurant, eating a cuisine you’ve never eaten before, or going to your favorite spot but ordering a dish you’ve never had. My favorite romantic places are Italian or French, but these can get expensive, so I some sometimes like to go the home cooked route and fix up a simple spaghetti and salad, dress up the patio table, and put on Sinatra.
Video Game Fun
If you have a video game console lying around and you have kids, chances are you’ve never been on it. Why not hit the rental store and pick out a game you can play as a couple? Challenging yourself and each other can be fun and great way to laugh together. Pick something that will get you animated, like a racing game. The Nintendo Wii sports games and Rock Band/Guitar Hero are also great games to play as a couple.
Beach or Lake Day
Hopefully, you have a large body of water nearby. We live super close to the coast, so it is nothing for us to hop in the car and have a day of sand and sea. Hopefully you can do the same. Take the lawn chairs, an umbrella, and a cooler and hit the lake or beach. Even if you don’t plan on taking a dip, you can sport your swimsuit and enjoy time together on the shore.
Sleep In for a Change
You may be in the habit of jumping out of bed at the crack of dawn even on your day off, but try to control the urge and snuggle up together instead. Staying in bed, dozing in out of sleep, talking quietly to one another and shutting out the world can be a great way to reconnect and encourage intimacy.
What ideas do you have for a romantic staycation together? How do you and your spouse spend time together and escape for a little while?