Budgets and diets have one thing in common: both tend to be broken during the holidays. Even people who have been careful with their money all year long tend to go a little crazy once the Christmas lights go up.
According to the National Retail Foundation (NRF), in 2016 the average American expects to spend $935.58 during the holiday season. That figure includes food, decorations, flowers, greeting cards, holiday treats and, of course, gifts. NRF survey respondents said they planned to spend $588.90 on gifts for others – roughly 63% of their total holiday spending.
Unfortunately, just like a holiday cookie binge, all this spending leaves a lot of guilt behind when the new year arrives. A survey by OfferUp found that 24% of Americans consider holiday spending their most stressful one-time expense of the year.
One way to reduce post-holiday stress is to cut back – not just on cookies, but on spending as well. And since gifts are the biggest expense for most Americans, it makes sense to look first at your gift budget when you’re searching for ways to cut holiday spending. A few sensible steps – like setting spending limits, giving secondhand or homemade gifts, shopping during sales, and saving on shipping – can help keep your expenses in line. So even if you gain a few pounds over the holidays, at least you won’t be weighed down by bills.
1. Set Limits
Holiday overspending often starts off innocently enough. You see a great sweater that would be a perfect present for your sister, and though it’s a bit pricey, you decide it’s worth a splurge. After all, it’s only one present.
The problem is that once you’ve spent $80 on your sister’s gift, it seems only fair to spend the same amount on your brother. After all, you don’t want to play favorites. And so it continues, through gifts for your cousins, your in-laws, your kids, your spouse … and the longer your list is, the worse the total looks at the end.
One big present won’t usually wreck your budget, but a big present for everyone on your list will. So to keep your spending under control, you have two choices. You can either limit the amount you spend on each gift or limit the number of people you buy gifts for.
Set a Dollar Limit
Start by setting a total budget for your holiday gift-giving. Then divide that total by the number of people on your list giving you a price limit for each person. As long as you keep each person’s gifts under this limit, you can’t go over budget.
Of course, you don’t have to split up your budget equally. You can give bigger gifts to your closest family members and distribute small token gifts to people who are less close, such as neighbors and distant friends. Or you can set a higher limit for a friend who has luxurious tastes and spend less on one with simpler tastes.
The point is just to have a number in mind for each gift before you start shopping. That way, you’ll know that sweater isn’t really the perfect present for your sister unless it also has the perfect price tag.
When your total budget is small, dividing it up into even tinier pieces for each person can feel limiting. But looked at another way, a small budget can actually help unleash your creativity. When your budget is unlimited, it’s easy to substitute money for real thought. If you don’t have any ideas, you can just plunk down a wad of cash for a gift card.
When you have only $15 to work with, you have to think outside the box. You have to ask yourself what this person really likes in order to come up with an idea that fits your budget. For instance, instead of grabbing that fancy sweater, you might remember that your sister loves science fiction and pick out a bestselling sci-fi novel.
Shrink Your Gift List
Even if you spend only $15 on each present, that still adds up to $750 if there are 50 people on your gift list. So to rein in your holiday budget, you need to pare that list down to a more reasonable size.
Giving gifts to fewer people saves you time as well as money – the fewer people you have to shop for, the less time you have to spend fighting holiday crowds at the mall and wrapping presents.
The problem with shrinking your gift list is that it may lead to hurt feelings. If people who are accustomed to receiving a present from you every year don’t get one this year, their first thought might be that you’re angry with them for some reason. Even if you tell them you’re just cutting back on gifts to save money, they could still be offended that they were the ones cut from the list.
Here are a few ideas for trimming your gift list without damaging relationships:
- Talk It Over. Let your family and friends know about your wish to buy fewer gifts this year. It’s possible that some of them have been fretting over holiday spending as well, and will welcome the opportunity to cut back. Together, you can work out a plan to reduce gift-giving in a way that works for everyone. For instance, you could all agree to give large presents only to the kids in the family, while the grownups get only stocking stuffers.
- Give a Family Gift. Try buying a present for a whole family instead of one for each person. For instance, instead of getting separate gifts for your brother, his wife, and one for each of their three kids, you could give them all a board game they can play together. Another option is a gift card or gift certificate for a family meal at their favorite restaurant. You could also buy one gift for all the kids to share, and one for the grownups.
- Cut the Extra Gifts. Some people give holiday presents to people they aren’t really that close to, such as their neighbors or their kids’ teachers. If you have a lot of these “extra” people on your list, try skipping their presents this year. Instead, just send a greeting card or a letter to show these people you are thinking of them. They’ll probably enjoy that just as much as a random gift from a near-stranger.
Do a Gift Exchange
If you have 15 people in your family and each one buys a gift for each of the other 14, that gives you more than 200 presents piled under the tree. Unwrapping them all one by one ends up taking most of the day. In the rush to get through the pile, no one has time to focus on any one present or thank the giver properly. By the time you’re done, the floor is littered with paper and everyone is too worn out to enjoy their new gifts.
You can reduce the chaos of this scene by agreeing to a family gift exchange. This type of swap is also known as a round robin or secret Santa.
Here’s how it works:
- Gather the family together and put all your names into a hat. Thanksgiving is a good time for this. If you can’t get the whole family together, you can do your drawing online through a free site such as SecretSanta.com or Elfster.
- Take turns drawing names out of the hat. The person whose name you pick is the one person you need to shop for. If you draw your own name, choose again.
- To make choosing gifts easier, you can all put a few hints on your slip along with your names. For instance, you might name authors whose books you like or colors you prefer in clothing.
- Buy your gift, wrap it, and bring it to your holiday get-together. You can add to the fun by leaving your own names off the packages, so people have to guess who gave each present.
A gift exchange has several advantages. Because you have just one gift to shop for, you can spend more time on it. Instead of working your way through a long list, you can focus on finding just one perfect gift for one person.
You also have only one present to open, so you can take the time to appreciate it. That’s much more satisfying than tearing your way through a mountain of gifts without really noticing any of them. And no one ends up feeling hurt because their present got tossed aside in the shuffle with barely a word of acknowledgement.
2. Shop Secondhand
Setting a maximum price limit on gifts is easy. Actually finding great gifts that stay within your budget, however, can be more difficult.
One way to stretch your shopping dollar is to shop secondhand. Many common gift items – including clothes, jewelry, books, and CDs – are quite a bit cheaper when you buy them used. And because they’re reused items, secondhand gifts are green gifts as well.
When Secondhand Gifts Are Okay
Secondhand gifts make some people uncomfortable. To them, any gift that wasn’t bought new looks cheap. However, not everyone feels this way. A columnist for the Los Angeles Times reports that when he asked two colleagues how they felt about used gifts, one thought they were fine (while the other said they were “really tacky”).
So if you’re thinking of giving a pre-owned gift, ask yourself how the recipient will feel about it. If it’s your Aunt Louise, who gets half her wardrobe from thrift stores, then it’s probably fine. But for your cousin who wouldn’t be caught dead in a thrift shop, you should probably plan to buy new.
What kind of gift it is can also make a difference. For example, some people hate the idea of wearing used clothes, but they have no problem with used books. Other good gifts to buy used are collectibles and anything that could be described as vintage or antique.
Even an antique, however, won’t be welcome if it’s falling apart. So when you buy used gifts, make sure they’re in good shape. A good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn’t be willing to buy a similar item for yourself, you shouldn’t give it as a gift.
Also, though this may seem obvious, it’s a big no-no to wrap up an old item of your own and give it as a present. Anyone who’s seen the item in your house will know it’s just your old junk that you’re giving away. If you want to offer your cousin an old sweater that no longer fits you, fine – but don’t treat it as a gift.
Where to Find Secondhand Gifts
I’ve given secondhand gifts many times – always to people who didn’t mind receiving them. In fact, some of the most successful gifts I’ve ever given were the ones I bought used.
There are two keys to finding good gifts secondhand. First, you have to know where to look. Second, you have to know how to sniff out the quality items.
These are my favorite sources for secondhand gift shopping:
- Thrift Stores. Your local thrift shop can be a good place to look for clothes and household items. Some thrift shops also sell books, CDs, and games. My husband and I once found a copy of a $36 board game for $4 on a thrift store shelf – still new in its original shrink wrap. Remember, before purchasing gift from a thrift shop, check its condition carefully. Make sure there are no dents, rips, stains, or missing buttons lurking in hard-to-spot places.
- Used Bookstores. For the book lover on your list, used bookstores are a great place to find deals. Secondhand books are often just as good as new – or even better. For instance, these stores sometimes sell sturdy hardcover books for less than the paperback versions would cost brand new. Some used bookstores also carry CDs and DVDs. Just remember to check discs for severe scratches, and flip through books to ensure they are not badly damaged or marked.
- Garage Sales. Garage sales are a great place to find items for kids, such as clothes, books, toys, and games. We’ve even found craft items that were still new in their original boxes.
- eBay. The world’s largest online auction site is one of the best places to shop for the collector on your list. Its listings include all sorts of old and rare items you can’t just pick up in a store.
- Amazon. Before you add a pricey new item to your cart on Amazon, check to see if there’s a link below the main listing that says something like, “Used and new from $16.” If there is, it means there are other sellers offering the same item on the site. You can nearly always find used copies of books, games, and other small items for less than the retail price this way.
- Freecycle. Believe it or not, you can often find nifty holiday gifts on Freecycle for no money at all. If this seems tacky, just remember, a gift isn’t valuable because you spend money on it – what matters is how much it’s enjoyed.
Remember, whenever shopping secondhand, be sure to inspect all items for quality. Check puzzles and games for missing pieces; ensure that used books are not filled with notes and scribbles, and are not missing any pages; and always check online listings of used good for the condition (such as “like new,” “good,” or “acceptable”). For a gift, you probably should not settle for anything less than “like new” or “very good.” Always ask sellers for more details if you are unsure of what you’re about to purchase.
3. Make Your Own
Another way to find presents that fit a small budget is to make your own. However, just like secondhand gifts, homemade presents are sometimes welcome and sometimes not. The trick is to choose gifts that look thoughtful, rather than just plain cheap.
When to Give Homemade Gifts
When you give a handmade present, you’re spending time on it instead of money. So to be a success, the gift should look like you really put some time into it.
In many cases, this is a question of quality. A beautiful hand-sewn quilt that you spent weeks making is a lovely gift that means far more than anything you could buy at a store. But a lumpy potholder that you obviously stitched together out of scraps at the last minute just looks shoddy.
Of course, there are exceptions to this rule. A gift from a child, for example, doesn’t have to look perfect to be a thoughtful gift. Even if the carved wooden dog looks nothing like a dog, the effort that went into it makes it a touching gesture.
But when the giver is an adult, people expect a little more. So if you’re a novice knitter, you probably shouldn’t give a friend the uneven scarf you knitted as your first project. Wait until you have a little more skill and can give away scarves and hats that show how much effort went into creating them.
Types of Homemade Gifts
If you have a particular skill (such as knitting, woodworking, or photography), you can use that to make high-quality gifts. But even if you don’t, you can find lots of ideas online for gifts that anyone can make.
Here are just several examples:
- Toys: There are all kinds of toys for small children that you can make with simple tools. For example, it’s fairly easy to cut a wooden two-by-four into blocks of different shapes, sand them, and paint them in bright colors. If you have a jigsaw, you can use it to make your own wooden puzzles. Paste a colorful picture to a board – or paint one, if you have the skill – and then carve it up into pieces. These gifts are cheap and require only several hours of your time.
- Jewelry: You can make one-of-a-kind jewelry by selecting and stringing beads of different shapes and colors. Purchasing beads at craft stores can be pricey, but if you order online, you can buy a whole pound of assorted beads for $10 or less. You can even make your own beads out of colored paper, as shown at Instructables.
- Food: Edible gifts are great for the person who has everything. They may not need clothing, books, or household items, but everyone needs to eat. Cookies and candy are classic food gifts for the holidays that cost only a few dollars to make. Healthier choices include homemade salsa or apple butter. If you can make these recipes with your own homegrown produce, that gives your gift an extra personal touch.
- Bath and Beauty Products: For someone who loves to be pampered, a luxurious body butter or scented facial scrub makes a welcome gift. Products like these can sell for $20 or more at high-end retailers – but with a quick search, you can find recipes online for versions that cost little to make. Besides being cheaper, these homemade versions are often healthier, because they contain no harmful chemicals.
- Services: Many articles on homemade gifts suggest giving gift coupons for a service, such as a free night of babysitting or a home-cooked meal. However, there’s one problem with this kind of gift: all too often, the coupons are never used. In some cases, the recipient just forgets about them. In others, the recipient tries to ask for free babysitting on a night when the giver already has plans. To avoid this problem, try giving this kind of gift along with a copy of your calendar for the next few months. That way, you and the recipient can set up an appointment then and there to make sure the coupon is redeemed.
4. Shop Sales
A final way to save money on holiday gifts is to buy them on sale. However, sale shopping has its pitfalls. For one thing, not all holiday “deals” are really bargains. Worse still, all those glittering displays and tempting price tags can easily lure you into impulse buys that can derail your budget.
Store Shopping vs. Online Shopping
To shop sales wisely, the first thing you have to decide is which sales to hit. According to DealNews, Thanksgiving weekend is the best time to find bargains. Black Friday still has the largest number of deals, but you’ll find bigger discounts by shopping on Thanksgiving Day itself.
However, that doesn’t mean leaving your turkey dinner to battle crowds at the mall is the only way to save. In many cases, the bargains are just as good when you shop online.
DealNews says that there may be more deals – and better deals – on Cyber Monday than on Black Friday. And, in a separate article, DealNews notes that most of the Black Friday sale items offered in stores are also available on the Internet. True, there are some “doorbuster” items that are sold only in stores – but these items often sell out so quickly that they could be gone by the time you make it in the door, and your trip will be wasted.
Shopping online can be a lot more relaxing than plunging into the mall mosh pit. You don’t have to battle the traffic in the parking lot or the crowds inside. Instead, you can finish your meal, wash the dishes, and then fire up your laptop to get the same deals other shoppers are fighting over at brick-and-mortar stores. And you don’t have to worry about when the store closes – the Web is open all night.
However, online shopping has its drawbacks too. DealNews warns that some online deals only pop up at certain hours of the day, and you have to watch the clock carefully to catch them. Furthermore, heavy holiday traffic can sometimes overwhelm a website and cause it to crash. And just like in stores, online sale items sometimes run out before you hit the “buy” button.
A final downside to shopping online is that you cannot see and touch the goods prior to making a purchase. A sweater that looks gorgeous on the screen might turn out to be flimsy and cheaply made – so it pays to check the store’s return policy before you buy.
Finally, remember to take shipping costs into account. A $30 game marked down to $15 looks like a great deal – but not if it costs an extra $10 to ship.
Shopping Sales Wisely
No matter where you choose to shop, you need to be strategic. Here are a few tips that can help you get the most for your dollar:
- Compare Prices. Not every holiday “deal” is really a money-saver. In fact, the sale price of an item at one store may be higher than the regular price of the same item at another store. To ensure that you’re really getting the lowest price, use a Black Friday shopping app, such as ShopSavvy. When you scan the bar code on an item, the app shows you how much it’s selling for in other stores and online. For online shopping, you can use an app such as PriceBlink to compare prices and search for coupon codes automatically.
- Stack Deals. Stacking is a standard technique used by extreme couponers: Wait until an item goes on sale, then “stack” a coupon on top of that sale price for maximum savings. When shopping online, you can find stackable deals through PriceBlink or rewards apps such as Ebates. Other rewards apps, such as Ibotta, can help you find coupons to stack with sale prices in stores.
- Stick to Your List. Impulse buys are a big hazard of holiday shopping. The more time you spend in the store looking at tempting deals, the more unplanned buys you’re likely to end up with in your cart. To resist the lure of impulse buys, make a shopping list and stick closely to it.
5. Ship Gifts for Less
Sometimes, the cost of a gift doesn’t end when you buy it. You could do a great job staying within your budget by purchasing gifts that cost less than $10 each – but if you have to pay $10 each to ship them, there go your savings.
Fortunately, there are some ways to keep your shipping costs under control. Here are several tips to keep in mind:
- Watch Your (Gift) Weight. When shopping for gifts that must be shipped, consider weight as well as the sticker price. For instance, instead shipping a new bowling ball to your uncle, send him a nice, lightweight gift card for a store that sells bowling gear.
- Wrap It Securely. The money you spend on a gift is wasted if it doesn’t arrive in one piece. Popular Mechanics says the best way to protect your gift is to wrap each part separately, leaving at least two inches of cushioning between the parts. Leave two inches between each piece and the walls of the box as well. Then seal the box with wide packing tape, applied evenly across each seam along its whole length. Scotch tape, masking tape, and duct tape don’t hold up as well.
- Don’t Pay for Packing Materials. There’s no need to pay extra for packing materials, such as bubble wrap or foam peanuts, when crumpled sheets of newspaper work just fine. Stuff newspaper snugly into every corner of the package until nothing rattles. When the package arrives, the newspaper sheets can be pulled out and recycled, so there’s no waste.
- Compare Shipping Costs. According to Consumer Reports, the U.S. Postal Service (USPS) is almost always the cheapest way to ship a package. However, for some cities, it’s cheaper to go with FedEx or UPS. So before you decide which to use, check the prices online. Enter your package’s size, weight, and destination on the websites of the USPS, UPS, and FedEx – each site will produce a list of shipping options with the cost and transit time for each.
- Ship Directly. If you’re buying a gift online, there’s no point in having it shipped to your house and then immediately shipping it off to someone else. Having it shipped directly to the recipient can save you money and time. The only downside is that you don’t get to wrap the gift yourself or enclose a card. However, many online stores allow you to include a personal message for free. Some stores also offer free gift wrapping – My Shopping Box among them, according to this article on its website. Just be sure to check the price of gift wrapping before you order it – Consumer Reports says it can cost anywhere from $2 to $16, which could be more than the cost of shipping the item yourself.
When it comes to the holidays, what makes a present special is the amount of thought that goes into it. So when you’re shopping for a gift, take time to really think about the person you’re giving it to. Ask yourself what they like and what kind of gift would mean a lot to them.
For example, say your mom has a huge collection of old family photos that she treasures, but they’re all jumbled together in shoe boxes. Your gift to her could be to scan all those pictures onto CDs or onto a memory stick so she can find them more easily. That costs very little, yet it would surely mean a lot to her.
What is the best holiday present you’ve ever received? What made it special?